Stepping into your power. This can be touchy as a business owner, and especially for females. I read a study recently about how men go into a new job confidently and expecting to be paid what they're worth, whereas women enter a little more hesitant, with looking for approval and willing to take a back seat.
It's the same with being an entrepreneur. So often, as women we want to people please and not hurt anyone's feelings. That often leaves us dulling our own light so that we don't leave anyone behind or make them feel bad for where they're at. But we forget that someone needs to be a trailblazer, and show the others it's OKAY to let our light shine. It's okay to go after our dreams and know our own value. AND when we do that - we actually give others PERMISSON to do the same!
In today's article, I offer a few tips to help you step into your power and let yourself shine sister!
Love you tons and have a beautiful weekend! I will be rockin' out for my first time at Kaboo! It's an event here in Del Mar, filled with tons of musical talent like Pink, The Red Hot Chilli Peppers and Tom Petty! Fun right?!
What does it even mean to step into your power?
Well, my perspective on this is that means stepping into the best version of yourself. The kindest, most loving and happiest version.
My talk earlier this week was centered around this very topic, and I shared that most people have a hard time doing this because of the negative thoughts swirling around in their minds.
This is definitely a work in progress and won't ever be perfect...
BUT even if we can have positive thoughts 51% of the time, we're winning.
So, how can we do this?
Identify any fear and lack based thinking. It's sneaky and slips in fast. Notice the decisions you're making for clues. If you stopped paying yourself first because of a lower income month, you have slipped into lack-based thinking. This then trickles down into everything you're doing.
Identify the belief and shift it to a new and empowered belief instead. It's not so much about not having the negative thoughts to begin with, it's more about how fast you can shift your focus back to empowered thoughts instead. The ego will always be there trying to drag us backwards (unless you're fully enlightened of course and then you wouldn't need to be here at all!).
Identify who you are giving your energy to. Who and what are you saying yes to? Is this taking you closer to your goals and what you want to have more of in your life, or further away? Identifying your values and priorities will help immensely. You're giving away your power if you are giving away your time and energy to things that aren't meaningful. This is where resentment is cultivated. Check-in on why you are saying eyes to begin with - if it's about people pleasing and trying to fulfill a dysfunctional need - then your light will be dimmed.
Let go of expectations of others. Note I said "expectations" not "unrealistic expectations". Who gets to decide what is realistic and unrealistic anyway? That is just another set of rules we create to keep us separate and disappointed in others. We keep the drama alive. I realized the other day my expectations are a little too high for my kids. Sometimes I forget they are just kids and still have tons too learn. A great catch for sure. If we let go of how people "should" behave and act all together we will experience a whole lot less disappointment, and therefore a tail spin of negative thinking.
Be confident with who you are on the inside. Easier said then done sometimes, I know. Self-care helps a ton with this. Taking the time to do what you love is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself. It instils self-love and essentially confidence. Take some time to reflect and receive the divine guidance there for you as well. This will help strengthen your connection to Source and the universal energy available for all of us, and help you feel less isolated and more connected. This leads to having the strength to stay no to things and people that drain your energy and yes to what brings you joy instead.
Strengthen your connection to the Universe. Not only does this help with confidence as mentioned above, this helps you to be inspired and a co-creator in the life you're wanting. You will be shown how and when to shine your light. This doesn't feel scary, it feels good. Because at the highest level, what you are really doing is extending love. Now it might look like doing this from a stage, or one-on-one with your neighbour. There is no size to it. It's about extending that energy to those around you, which in-turn creates a massive ripple effect of goodness.
Have fun and let's lose the "seriousness" around it:-) As soon as we get too serious, we've slipped into the ego again. It doesn't have to be so heavy.
Namaste friends xo